07 July 2014
Ok, finally one legit success!
For once, I managed to ask a girl for her number IRL directly and not at a singles event. Oh yeah!
Cute but... she's a 3rd year uni student. I'm going younger and younger, not sure if this is even a good idea.
Regardless, YOLO!
New option if it turns out that I should move on. The current one, I'm going to wait till she returns to SG this month and try out a date or two. That's it.
08 July 2014
So the fresh grad is turning out to be pretty rich. After all the hiding, she finally blurted out that her family has a maid before revealing that both her parents are bosses of their own companies. And now she's going to work in a bank.
This may get intimidating.
On the other hand, I'm not sure if we really click. She said she's chatty but these days, she rarely checks her phone. To me, that's a strong sign of a lack of interest in talking to me.
Turns out that undergrad was a transguy, as in born female but pretty much male in all ways except physically. The only way I can date him is if I'm gay, since he's definitely going for treatment in the future.
Had an interesting chat though; they're so different from lesbians.
Tough life.
Ok, I am a little disappointed too - he was pretty interesting to talk to.
09 July 2014
Since the girl seems to be uninterested, time to continue to meet more girls.
Abandoning the use of Meetup.com as my main method but will still attend some. It's not bad, just not good enough. Too many older ladies, too few younger.
A rethink of my strategy is clearly required.
Discovered several options: volunteer work, foreign language course, clubbing, attending Diner en Blanc next year.
Removing clubbing from the list because despite what some clubber friends said, everything points to the fact that clubs are bad places to look for steads.
Volunteer work is a maybe because it is frowned upon, apparently, unless it's stated as a singles event.
Diner en Blanc is next year.
Remaining best possible option: attend a foreign language course.
Although it sucks that I've to do this all over again, I'm not exactly back to square one after all these months. Certainly, lessons have been learnt and friends were made who will make life easier for me in the future.
10 July 2014
Time to make a move. She's finally back in SG!
11 July 2014
Thought she had blocked me yesterday when her "Last seen" status vanished after arriving in SG. Apologized at midnight about being busy so I'm just too sensitive.
Anyway, asking her out is going to be hard. Both of us are busy. Possible though.
I think something's wrong with the Whatsapp app. Maybe it's a sign that I should be using the new Lenovo phone I got a while back as my main phone.
12 July 2014
So I can't ask her out because her mum's going to stay till next week. Her parents are very protective of their only daughter so I should worry about them.
Interesting lesson last night. There were a number of hot girls but my cousin had advised a while back that in each gathering, a guy can only ask for the number of one girl, so I picked one... and I failed.
Just couldn't get the right opportunity except for that one short sliver of a moment when we said bye, during which I just couldn't muster the courage to do it in front of everyone.
Apparently, that was a good thing.
My dating coach advised that I cannot keep asking for numbers in every gathering, not without being subtle about it. Apparently, if word spreads, I will look like what they call a "tryer", not to mention insincere.
In contrast, another guy there said it was perfectly ok when I mentioned this advice to him on the train home. Then again, he's a few years older and still single while my dating coach is a girl and in a steady relationship. Both used to be players. It's obvious here who's words are worth more.
Tomorrow, I will be going for a dinner, but it will not be to get another number. Instead, it will be a practice session for interacting with the ladies, including the ones I will never be interested in.
In other words, no more numbers. I like this current one too much to risk it.
It's crazy but the transguy just offered to introduce a nice girl to me. Not very good-looking but apparently she's good-natured and stuff. In a word, homely.
Nah, I'm already trying to date a better girl, and this new one is not attractive enough to worth risking that girl for.
It's worth noting because I've only known him for less than a week! Damn he's so nice!
Sunday, 13 July 2014
Sunday, 6 July 2014
Rant 1198 / I Like My Sugar With Coffee
04 June 2014
Low-hanging fruit. Going to ask the latest one out. Would ask the fresh grad out but she's still overseas on her grad trip, and we're running out of things to talk about since all she can think about is places to visit in China and I barely know any of those.
This one, I don't know. I'm concerned about her finances and that she's probably got ADHD.
Low-hanging fruit.
Chinups somehow improving. Almost managed to kiss the ceiling above the bar today. Weight dropped from 92 to 88 again. Must have eaten way too much in the last few days.
I don't even know how it works. It's not like I'm exercising much. Just around 3-5 quasi-chinups a day.
05 June 2015
It's true - I'm lonely. She's cute too.
Asked her out for a movie this weekend. Got a positive reply. Another milestone.
25 with a private diploma; I really am concerned about her ability to stand on her own, hence this does not look like it will be a long-term thing.
In the meantime, another girl is considering sharing my double bed room with me in Taiwan if she can't find any travel buddies.
As for the girl in China, we barely talk anymore because she's trying to explore almost the entire China before she starts her working life.
Yet another girl is asking me to go to Cambodia with her. This one is really all platonic since she's attached and there's at least one more guy with us. Sucks that she's attached, but not surprising at all. She's pretty awesome, though she seems pretty serious about Jesus. Religion is a downside for me.
And a failure. This Indonesian girl barely talks. I tried, she seemed interested since she always replied but her replies were so short I had nothing to respond with. With these many things bugging me, I'm not going to bother to talk to her till she warms up to me. It looks possible though.
I just couldn't help but say,"The fuck...?"
07 June 2014
09 June 2014
So that's a date. We just sat around and chat a lot. Somehow I don't talk about movies I've just watched so we didn't discuss the one we watched much. I don't know, I just can't think of anything to say about the film usually, and it was no different this time.
And I don't know about this girl. She's nice and all but I will probably never let this become "serious".
Low-hanging fruit. Going to ask the latest one out. Would ask the fresh grad out but she's still overseas on her grad trip, and we're running out of things to talk about since all she can think about is places to visit in China and I barely know any of those.
This one, I don't know. I'm concerned about her finances and that she's probably got ADHD.
Low-hanging fruit.
Chinups somehow improving. Almost managed to kiss the ceiling above the bar today. Weight dropped from 92 to 88 again. Must have eaten way too much in the last few days.
I don't even know how it works. It's not like I'm exercising much. Just around 3-5 quasi-chinups a day.
05 June 2015
It's true - I'm lonely. She's cute too.
Asked her out for a movie this weekend. Got a positive reply. Another milestone.
25 with a private diploma; I really am concerned about her ability to stand on her own, hence this does not look like it will be a long-term thing.
In the meantime, another girl is considering sharing my double bed room with me in Taiwan if she can't find any travel buddies.
As for the girl in China, we barely talk anymore because she's trying to explore almost the entire China before she starts her working life.
Yet another girl is asking me to go to Cambodia with her. This one is really all platonic since she's attached and there's at least one more guy with us. Sucks that she's attached, but not surprising at all. She's pretty awesome, though she seems pretty serious about Jesus. Religion is a downside for me.
And a failure. This Indonesian girl barely talks. I tried, she seemed interested since she always replied but her replies were so short I had nothing to respond with. With these many things bugging me, I'm not going to bother to talk to her till she warms up to me. It looks possible though.
I just couldn't help but say,"The fuck...?"
07 June 2014
09 June 2014
So that's a date. We just sat around and chat a lot. Somehow I don't talk about movies I've just watched so we didn't discuss the one we watched much. I don't know, I just can't think of anything to say about the film usually, and it was no different this time.
And I don't know about this girl. She's nice and all but I will probably never let this become "serious".
Maybe there is some truth to the online quiz result saying I may have narcissistic personality disorder. Back when I first saw it, I immediately dismissed it when it said I lacked empathy.
The girl I dated the other day just told me her grandfather is in critical condition in a hospital and I feel... absolutely nothing.
No concern, no sympathy, nada - just another Monday evening.
I reacted as I was supposed to but inside me, nothing stirred.
No concern, no sympathy, nada - just another Monday evening.
I reacted as I was supposed to but inside me, nothing stirred.
This kinda worries me though, the lack of concern. Shouldn't I feel sad or worried?
10 June 2014
Communication. Maybe that's the key.
I like her but I believe I should date more girls.
Choices. Two other girls I am interested in dating but cannot at the moment - do I wait or do I search for more? Not impossible to date though, just got to wait a bit more.
There's yet another girl who's been trying to talk to me and making me overthink. She's attached but whenever a girl initiates conversations with me more than once within a week, I just automatically think that there's more to it than simply the desire to chat with me.
Maybe I'm underestimating my conversational ability? Unlikely. Or maybe I just need to be less insecure.
13 June 2014
Finished Lifeless Planet. Interesting game. It's so easy it's more of an interactive story than a game. Or maybe, the gameplay is meant to stretch it out to pace the story. Maybe.
She's unable to come out this week due to the passing of a family member, and explicitly told me that she wasn't trying to avoid me. That implies that a second date is practically guaranteed.
But the other girl will be coming back to Singapore soon.
Drinking Long Flat's 2012 Pink Moscato now. Pretty good for the price: $17.25 (U.P. $18.95). It's the sweet and gassy sort, yet not a fortified wine. Rose wine, whatever that is. Great for non-drinkers like me. Never saw the appeal of dry wines anyway.
15th June 2014
Nope nope nope.
I may be overthinking this but I'm feeling a little guilty right now. This girl is just too... girlish. Not that I'm particularly manly but just.. no.
21 June 2014
Absolutely hilarious, the last scene.
Spent a lot of time thinking about how to say it and neglected to text her since Monday. Finally texted her this morning and she seemed confused. Apparently it would have been better to just ignore her but I felt that she deserved an explanation. Unfortunately she didn't seem to understand me so that didn't go well, and I ended up taking her advise and ignoring her, which led her to block me.
Weird, it was only one date. I guess it was a good idea to do it so quickly. Who knows how she would have reacted if I had taken longer?
The fact that she blocked me showed that she was taking it quite badly. She must have been seriously insecure then, to fall for my newbie sweet talk to that degree. Guess I made the right choice to end it after just one date.
23 June 2014
This energy! Been quite a while since I felt this energetic! But how to resist releasing it?
27 June 2014
Planet Explorers is FANTASTIC! It's exactly the kind of game I've always been looking for! Lots of exploration, custom-building and quests! Holy crap!!!
Exploration: huge map even in the relatively small story mode. I've spent two days in the game and I've only covered 2 biomes, a forest and a grassland, and under the forest is a huge cavernous maze!
The building part is big too! In this game, building a car does not simply mean getting all the components and clicking on "Build". Instead, the player goes to the Creation menu and customizes a vehicle from scratch. The game only builds the seat, engine and wheels using the "Replicated" button but the player has to decide where to place these components and build the frame from scratch.
And you can probably build tanks that way too.
This is the same for watercrafts, aircrafts, structures and equipment.
To build a base, there are also sentry guns in addition to whatever structures you want to build (like watchtowers and fortified walls). Not sure if the sentry guns can be customized though.
Really recommend it for ppl who love to build and explore!
This is weird. She must be the most sociable girl I know because she's just invited me for 3 events over 4 days.
I'm not doing anything here because she's attached. No sweetening of my words or anything.
They aren't the sort of dates that I may find inappropriate between a single guy and an attached girl since she's invited others too, except for the one on Monday.
Too bad I'm flying on Monday.
Can people really be that friendly and sweet?
I said sweet because she helped me with two things consecutively.
First, I helped her order some stuff and in exchange, I asked her to just give me a free movie ticket the next time she organizes an outing instead of paying cash. Hence she invited me for a movie on Saturday. The problem here was that it was the same movie I'd already signed up for with another guy for tonight, and I'd already cancelled my slot for the last outing he organized. It might be annoying for him to do it again and find someone to take my place.
When she realized that, she offered to talk to him for me since he owed her favours.
After that, she figured she had made my Friday night empty, so she invited me for another event tonight. Holy crap, a girl this sweet, I can't believe her time isn't fully booked by her bf. What is she doing alone on both Friday and Saturday nights?!
OR maybe I'm just going crazy from not fapping for so many days.
28th June 2014
So it was just the two of us plus another girl as the others couldn't make it.
06 July 2014
Should I be worried if I'm chatting with a girl I'm not trying to date far more often than with the one whom I am?
Maybe she's busy, or maybe it's time to move on; I'm inclined with the latter.
Time to rethink my strategy if this goes on. Perhaps I really should consider the new idea that girl I'm chatting a lot of with gave me.
Anyway she also gave me a crash course on nail polish shopping. I never noticed the sample nails until last week in Seoul when I provided personal shopping service for her while wandering the streets of Namdaemun. It was so what I kinda expected when it resulted in me standing around there for about 20mins or half an hour just to get a bottle of nail polish and a box of glitter.
Very amusing, and I'm not being sarcastic. She was SO fussy lol.
That girl I'm trying to date, she was much simpler, mainly because she had been spending her last week in Europe and had been able to buy plenty of cosmetic stuff over there, and partly because the only Korean brand she was interested in was quite out of the way for me. In the end, I only got her 60 masks. Cheap because Etude House was having a promotion and their latests masks were going for less than 5k wons (about 800KRW per SGD) per packet of 10. The normal price for most brands seems to be 10k wons per packet.
Kept saying she's not rich, but the more I chat with her, the wealthier she seems and the more worrying it's getting.
As for Seoul, the street food at Myeongdong seems to be changing. This year, there's ice cream in some kind of edible waffle tubes, meatballs, and roasted gingko nuts, among many others, not just fish cakes everywhere like the first time I was there.
Oh yes, jajangmyeun too, but DO NOT TRY. Stick with those sold in restaurants. The stuff they sell at the roadside stalls is terrible, and it's inconvenient to eat anyway.
Regardless, it's great because I can literally have a full meal just by walking around Myeongdong. Meatballs, Korean vermicelli, seaweed fishcakes, roasted nuts, and have at least two types of ice creams for dessert. Awesome!
Just not cheap LOL
Far cheaper to get a nice bowl of bibimbap for 4-6k each. Or visit the porridge shop just next to ibis Ambassador Myeongdong, the hotel I was staying at, for their nice porridge or dumpling soup. Still as awesome as ever but expensive as fuck. 10k wons for the seafood porridge! That's like S$8! However, to be fair, it's still pretty good value with the fresh ingredients and free flow squid kimchi (and radish and cabbage kimchi). Yes, I only go for the squid kimchi because that's the only place I know that serves it.
Chinups somehow didn't get worse when I got back. Very slightly harder but still able to kiss the ceiling when I'm up, and I'm still able to start from a lower height, about 60 degrees below the horizontal.
Planet Explorers is awesome but... I lost an important NPC!!! Ugh!
He's one of the NPCs that gave me a quest that was vital to the storyline, so now I'm stuck at this point with the only solution being to search a gigantic area to find him again.
I'm restarting this. There's no console command to make him pop up next to me like in Fallout or Skyrim.
10 June 2014
Communication. Maybe that's the key.
I like her but I believe I should date more girls.
Choices. Two other girls I am interested in dating but cannot at the moment - do I wait or do I search for more? Not impossible to date though, just got to wait a bit more.
There's yet another girl who's been trying to talk to me and making me overthink. She's attached but whenever a girl initiates conversations with me more than once within a week, I just automatically think that there's more to it than simply the desire to chat with me.
Maybe I'm underestimating my conversational ability? Unlikely. Or maybe I just need to be less insecure.
13 June 2014
Finished Lifeless Planet. Interesting game. It's so easy it's more of an interactive story than a game. Or maybe, the gameplay is meant to stretch it out to pace the story. Maybe.
She's unable to come out this week due to the passing of a family member, and explicitly told me that she wasn't trying to avoid me. That implies that a second date is practically guaranteed.
But the other girl will be coming back to Singapore soon.
Drinking Long Flat's 2012 Pink Moscato now. Pretty good for the price: $17.25 (U.P. $18.95). It's the sweet and gassy sort, yet not a fortified wine. Rose wine, whatever that is. Great for non-drinkers like me. Never saw the appeal of dry wines anyway.
15th June 2014
Nope nope nope.
I may be overthinking this but I'm feeling a little guilty right now. This girl is just too... girlish. Not that I'm particularly manly but just.. no.
21 June 2014
Absolutely hilarious, the last scene.
Spent a lot of time thinking about how to say it and neglected to text her since Monday. Finally texted her this morning and she seemed confused. Apparently it would have been better to just ignore her but I felt that she deserved an explanation. Unfortunately she didn't seem to understand me so that didn't go well, and I ended up taking her advise and ignoring her, which led her to block me.
Weird, it was only one date. I guess it was a good idea to do it so quickly. Who knows how she would have reacted if I had taken longer?
The fact that she blocked me showed that she was taking it quite badly. She must have been seriously insecure then, to fall for my newbie sweet talk to that degree. Guess I made the right choice to end it after just one date.
23 June 2014
This energy! Been quite a while since I felt this energetic! But how to resist releasing it?
27 June 2014
Planet Explorers is FANTASTIC! It's exactly the kind of game I've always been looking for! Lots of exploration, custom-building and quests! Holy crap!!!
Exploration: huge map even in the relatively small story mode. I've spent two days in the game and I've only covered 2 biomes, a forest and a grassland, and under the forest is a huge cavernous maze!
The building part is big too! In this game, building a car does not simply mean getting all the components and clicking on "Build". Instead, the player goes to the Creation menu and customizes a vehicle from scratch. The game only builds the seat, engine and wheels using the "Replicated" button but the player has to decide where to place these components and build the frame from scratch.
And you can probably build tanks that way too.
This is the same for watercrafts, aircrafts, structures and equipment.
To build a base, there are also sentry guns in addition to whatever structures you want to build (like watchtowers and fortified walls). Not sure if the sentry guns can be customized though.
Really recommend it for ppl who love to build and explore!
This is weird. She must be the most sociable girl I know because she's just invited me for 3 events over 4 days.
I'm not doing anything here because she's attached. No sweetening of my words or anything.
They aren't the sort of dates that I may find inappropriate between a single guy and an attached girl since she's invited others too, except for the one on Monday.
Too bad I'm flying on Monday.
Can people really be that friendly and sweet?
I said sweet because she helped me with two things consecutively.
First, I helped her order some stuff and in exchange, I asked her to just give me a free movie ticket the next time she organizes an outing instead of paying cash. Hence she invited me for a movie on Saturday. The problem here was that it was the same movie I'd already signed up for with another guy for tonight, and I'd already cancelled my slot for the last outing he organized. It might be annoying for him to do it again and find someone to take my place.
When she realized that, she offered to talk to him for me since he owed her favours.
After that, she figured she had made my Friday night empty, so she invited me for another event tonight. Holy crap, a girl this sweet, I can't believe her time isn't fully booked by her bf. What is she doing alone on both Friday and Saturday nights?!
OR maybe I'm just going crazy from not fapping for so many days.
28th June 2014
So it was just the two of us plus another girl as the others couldn't make it.
06 July 2014
Should I be worried if I'm chatting with a girl I'm not trying to date far more often than with the one whom I am?
Maybe she's busy, or maybe it's time to move on; I'm inclined with the latter.
Time to rethink my strategy if this goes on. Perhaps I really should consider the new idea that girl I'm chatting a lot of with gave me.
Anyway she also gave me a crash course on nail polish shopping. I never noticed the sample nails until last week in Seoul when I provided personal shopping service for her while wandering the streets of Namdaemun. It was so what I kinda expected when it resulted in me standing around there for about 20mins or half an hour just to get a bottle of nail polish and a box of glitter.
Very amusing, and I'm not being sarcastic. She was SO fussy lol.
That girl I'm trying to date, she was much simpler, mainly because she had been spending her last week in Europe and had been able to buy plenty of cosmetic stuff over there, and partly because the only Korean brand she was interested in was quite out of the way for me. In the end, I only got her 60 masks. Cheap because Etude House was having a promotion and their latests masks were going for less than 5k wons (about 800KRW per SGD) per packet of 10. The normal price for most brands seems to be 10k wons per packet.
Kept saying she's not rich, but the more I chat with her, the wealthier she seems and the more worrying it's getting.
As for Seoul, the street food at Myeongdong seems to be changing. This year, there's ice cream in some kind of edible waffle tubes, meatballs, and roasted gingko nuts, among many others, not just fish cakes everywhere like the first time I was there.
Oh yes, jajangmyeun too, but DO NOT TRY. Stick with those sold in restaurants. The stuff they sell at the roadside stalls is terrible, and it's inconvenient to eat anyway.
Regardless, it's great because I can literally have a full meal just by walking around Myeongdong. Meatballs, Korean vermicelli, seaweed fishcakes, roasted nuts, and have at least two types of ice creams for dessert. Awesome!
Just not cheap LOL
Far cheaper to get a nice bowl of bibimbap for 4-6k each. Or visit the porridge shop just next to ibis Ambassador Myeongdong, the hotel I was staying at, for their nice porridge or dumpling soup. Still as awesome as ever but expensive as fuck. 10k wons for the seafood porridge! That's like S$8! However, to be fair, it's still pretty good value with the fresh ingredients and free flow squid kimchi (and radish and cabbage kimchi). Yes, I only go for the squid kimchi because that's the only place I know that serves it.
Chinups somehow didn't get worse when I got back. Very slightly harder but still able to kiss the ceiling when I'm up, and I'm still able to start from a lower height, about 60 degrees below the horizontal.
Planet Explorers is awesome but... I lost an important NPC!!! Ugh!
He's one of the NPCs that gave me a quest that was vital to the storyline, so now I'm stuck at this point with the only solution being to search a gigantic area to find him again.
I'm restarting this. There's no console command to make him pop up next to me like in Fallout or Skyrim.
Tuesday, 3 June 2014
Rant 1197 / Azura Is No Ordinary Daedra
29th May 2014
So my cousin told me that my employment in his company will be postponed for half a year. In the meantime, I'm to learn to the necessary IT skills while also reading up on everything he had listed previously.
And pass the CFA Level 1 exam in Dec. And still run my business.
The first work-related person I mentioned this to immediately asked if I plan to sell the firm.
Why would I do that???
Now this is an example of why no matter how ambitious I thought I was, my relatives felt that I have been setting my sights too low.
People around me have so little ambition that I could not truly understand the meaning of the word until I really talked to my relatives when my bro got married!
Why be the boss of one business when you can be the boss of multiple??!? Why restrict yourself to only one field?
Even though I've stopped working out with dumbbells and the stationary bike regularly, I'm starting to use the chinup bar almost every time I walk under it.
The fact is that it's technically dangerous for me to do a real chinup due to my left shoulder. It's probably a very loose ligament at the back, so whenever I try to do a chinup starting from straightened arms, it feels like it would dislocated that shoulder.
Now I just do the underarm chinups starting from slightly bent arms, maybe 30 degrees from the horizontal axis, and I can do one... with a lot of straining and grunting. It does not sound like much but this is great progress for me. I still have never done a single proper chinup in my entire life on my own but this feels so close to my first.
30th May 2014
Went to Campers' Corner at Waterloo Street to get a hiking long-sleeve shirt and pants. These were meant for hiking in warm climate because they were made of polyester which allows for quick drying.
Cost about S$170, but they were both Marmot so that's reasonable enough.
Now I'm all prepared for hikes.
Going to join one tomorrow and if it's good, I'm going for my long walks by myself.
Gave the retiring worker a five-digit sum yesterday. She's been with us for almost one and a half decades so even though that was nowhere close to what I felt she deserved, that was the most I could afford.
Now I'm looking for a replacement but that's not been easy because Singaporeans seem to hate ironing like me. My staff have tried to ask among their friends but the ironing was what stopped them all from saying yes.
And here I thought the main issue was the ability to use the sewing machine.
Good thing it's not the peak season so things are still manageable.
01 June 2014
The hike turned out to be harder than I thought. It was about 12-15km from Seletar Reservoir to Pierce Reservoir, and half of it was through jungle.
I'm so glad I took the time to go to Campers' Corner and bought a long-sleeve shirt and convertible long pants for hiking, because not only were they light and cool, they protected me from the thorns and stuff.
The full-leather boots were another good idea because it allowed me to step on anything without worry. The only problem with these boots is that they gave me abrasion on my toes and ankles, although I think they just need to be broken in more.
Now I'm walking with the limp because the ball of my left foot is still aching.
02 June 2014
Went for Maleficient and met another cute girl but this time, it's a weird one. She likes to joke about killing stuff so much it's scary. Sure it was just twice in an evening but still, that's too much focus on death.
Still kinda interesting though. I didn't even know that being a barista is an interesting job.
Legs still aching.
Found a replacement but not sure if she's good enough. She used to use the bigger industrial sewing machines so it will take some time to know if she can use our smaller one.
03 June 2014
Booking a 4-night trip to Seoul for the near future and realized that it's really not worth the money to go for fare classes that give me club miles or sectors. Seriously, the price difference is S$600 here between Malaysian Airline tickets that give me nothing ($1000+) and Cathay Pacific tickets that give me miles and sectors at 100% rate ($1600+). Even if I compare with Malaysian Airlines' normal fare, the difference is still over $200.
Nope.
Ended up booking on Expedia a 5D4N trip to Seoul at ibis Ambassador Seoul Myeongdong. Surprisingly cheap this time, the hotel. Must be luck because it's even cheaper than any of the Skypark hotels at Myeongdong, and I was actually thinking about trying out Skypark III this time.
This trip is going to be tough because I will be going out mainly at night. No choice but to screw up my body clock for money.
The new worker doesn't really know how to use our larger sewing machine but is willing to learn. Now we've got to see if she can do it professionally by the end of the month. Apparently she's used to smaller ones at home, not big ones.
I fear Azura now.
I think I have to either finish my backlog tomorrow or go for a hike. Maybe both. The hike will be a simple one along the park connectors. Maybe go all the way up north to Bukit Timah. Let's see if I can finish the work by noon.
Water bag's filled up, backpack is ready, snack bar from combat ration still in backpack! All prepared for a long walk!
So my cousin told me that my employment in his company will be postponed for half a year. In the meantime, I'm to learn to the necessary IT skills while also reading up on everything he had listed previously.
And pass the CFA Level 1 exam in Dec. And still run my business.
The first work-related person I mentioned this to immediately asked if I plan to sell the firm.
Why would I do that???
Now this is an example of why no matter how ambitious I thought I was, my relatives felt that I have been setting my sights too low.
People around me have so little ambition that I could not truly understand the meaning of the word until I really talked to my relatives when my bro got married!
Why be the boss of one business when you can be the boss of multiple??!? Why restrict yourself to only one field?
Even though I've stopped working out with dumbbells and the stationary bike regularly, I'm starting to use the chinup bar almost every time I walk under it.
The fact is that it's technically dangerous for me to do a real chinup due to my left shoulder. It's probably a very loose ligament at the back, so whenever I try to do a chinup starting from straightened arms, it feels like it would dislocated that shoulder.
Now I just do the underarm chinups starting from slightly bent arms, maybe 30 degrees from the horizontal axis, and I can do one... with a lot of straining and grunting. It does not sound like much but this is great progress for me. I still have never done a single proper chinup in my entire life on my own but this feels so close to my first.
30th May 2014
Went to Campers' Corner at Waterloo Street to get a hiking long-sleeve shirt and pants. These were meant for hiking in warm climate because they were made of polyester which allows for quick drying.
Cost about S$170, but they were both Marmot so that's reasonable enough.
Now I'm all prepared for hikes.
Going to join one tomorrow and if it's good, I'm going for my long walks by myself.
Gave the retiring worker a five-digit sum yesterday. She's been with us for almost one and a half decades so even though that was nowhere close to what I felt she deserved, that was the most I could afford.
Now I'm looking for a replacement but that's not been easy because Singaporeans seem to hate ironing like me. My staff have tried to ask among their friends but the ironing was what stopped them all from saying yes.
And here I thought the main issue was the ability to use the sewing machine.
Good thing it's not the peak season so things are still manageable.
01 June 2014
The hike turned out to be harder than I thought. It was about 12-15km from Seletar Reservoir to Pierce Reservoir, and half of it was through jungle.
I'm so glad I took the time to go to Campers' Corner and bought a long-sleeve shirt and convertible long pants for hiking, because not only were they light and cool, they protected me from the thorns and stuff.
The full-leather boots were another good idea because it allowed me to step on anything without worry. The only problem with these boots is that they gave me abrasion on my toes and ankles, although I think they just need to be broken in more.
Now I'm walking with the limp because the ball of my left foot is still aching.
02 June 2014
Went for Maleficient and met another cute girl but this time, it's a weird one. She likes to joke about killing stuff so much it's scary. Sure it was just twice in an evening but still, that's too much focus on death.
Still kinda interesting though. I didn't even know that being a barista is an interesting job.
Legs still aching.
Found a replacement but not sure if she's good enough. She used to use the bigger industrial sewing machines so it will take some time to know if she can use our smaller one.
03 June 2014
Booking a 4-night trip to Seoul for the near future and realized that it's really not worth the money to go for fare classes that give me club miles or sectors. Seriously, the price difference is S$600 here between Malaysian Airline tickets that give me nothing ($1000+) and Cathay Pacific tickets that give me miles and sectors at 100% rate ($1600+). Even if I compare with Malaysian Airlines' normal fare, the difference is still over $200.
Nope.
Ended up booking on Expedia a 5D4N trip to Seoul at ibis Ambassador Seoul Myeongdong. Surprisingly cheap this time, the hotel. Must be luck because it's even cheaper than any of the Skypark hotels at Myeongdong, and I was actually thinking about trying out Skypark III this time.
This trip is going to be tough because I will be going out mainly at night. No choice but to screw up my body clock for money.
The new worker doesn't really know how to use our larger sewing machine but is willing to learn. Now we've got to see if she can do it professionally by the end of the month. Apparently she's used to smaller ones at home, not big ones.
I fear Azura now.
I think I have to either finish my backlog tomorrow or go for a hike. Maybe both. The hike will be a simple one along the park connectors. Maybe go all the way up north to Bukit Timah. Let's see if I can finish the work by noon.
Water bag's filled up, backpack is ready, snack bar from combat ration still in backpack! All prepared for a long walk!
Tuesday, 27 May 2014
Rant 1196 / Il Dolce Far Niente
22 May 2014
The more I think about it, the easier it is for me to just play around. The temptation is there and the theory looks plausible. I have minimal online presence and I am always vague about what I do. Everyone I know is aware that I talk to a lot of people.
Multiple girlfriends? Looks easy.
No, I won't do it when things get serious, but that's what I said about fooling around a few days ago, yet here I am thinking about it.
Maybe I'll consider this sort of thing if I break up with the first one.
Today I finally went ahead and told a girl off (gently) for this weird attitude she's been giving me. She was one of my failures, the one that ended when she told me I was too young for her.
Yet for some reason, after our conversation died, she tried to resurrect the chat twice.
We don't click.
Yet even though she seems to be trying to talk to me, her replies tend to be short and cold. In other words, I have no idea what she's doing. If it was not fun to talk to me, why bother coming back? If our conversations were enjoyable, why did she keep replying with just "Yup," or "Nope,"?
Stop wasting my time! I have more interested girls to fret over!
And studies.
So this morning, in reply to the last "Nope" she sent last night, I said that I had no idea why she even tried to talk to me when her numerous single-syllable replies implied boredom.
Enough is enough; stop dragging this. Even though she had friendzoned me, she's got to show more interest for us to be friends at all! Otherwise, we're just acquaintances.
24 May 2014
All of a sudden she had plenty to say, sending me practically a wall of text to explain, ending with a "you're too sensitive" remark.
Used to be that I'd believe that, but the last time someone said I was too sensitive, I had accused her of trying to promote some product and she turned out to be involved in some MLM nonsense.
In any case, I've got nothing better to do now. Just going to treat her like a guy.
I know I'm not smart but that is no reason for me not to act as if I know what I'm doing.
Apparently I display some signs of narcissistic personality disorder. However, after reading up on it more, it's probably just a false alarm. Lack of empathy? What?
But I'm probably more narcissistic than most regardless. Just look at the number of "I" that I use in this blog. I just can't help it!
26 May 2014
So I have a week to decide if I want to take up probably the most suitable job in the company - the IT management job.
It's crazy since I don't actually know much about the IT; the closest thing was the semester of C I took years ago in NTU. However, there really aren't that many low-level jobs available and I really want to take that first step, so the only option here is to learn it immediately.
I mean, compared to the other job they have, which is to find someone I can really trust who can do sales and travels often enough to certain countries, learning IT stuff is ridiculously easy.
Did something really rash today.
But it's so cool!
100% wool coat from Maison Martin Margiela. Hopefully it lasts because I don't foresee myself wearing it often in the near future. Maybe just wear it to Seoul.
Not exactly a blazer but neither is it an overcoat, so I'll just treat it as a winter jacket.
27th May 2014
After days of trying to avoid the truth, I finally mustered the courage to step onto the weighing scale...
87.5kg?!?!?! My best guess is that I lost fats and gained muscle mass during my reservist training, then lost muscle mass since then.
But probably leg muscles mostly since I haven't been training them. Instead, I've been training my arms since they improved the most after the field camp. Now I can almost do a chinup, and the only issue is the first half where I go from straightened arms to 90 degrees.
And when I do pushups, I have so my loose skin on my abdomen that it's gross. Seriously, it looks like I have a huge pair of testicles instead of a belly when I'm almost touching the floor.
My bro and his wife invited me to dinner on an unconfirmed date with her close friends. Looks like someone wants to play matchmaker. Didn't reject it but can't confirm until I know the date. There are other things going on in my life after all.
The more I think about it, the easier it is for me to just play around. The temptation is there and the theory looks plausible. I have minimal online presence and I am always vague about what I do. Everyone I know is aware that I talk to a lot of people.
Multiple girlfriends? Looks easy.
No, I won't do it when things get serious, but that's what I said about fooling around a few days ago, yet here I am thinking about it.
Maybe I'll consider this sort of thing if I break up with the first one.
Today I finally went ahead and told a girl off (gently) for this weird attitude she's been giving me. She was one of my failures, the one that ended when she told me I was too young for her.
Yet for some reason, after our conversation died, she tried to resurrect the chat twice.
We don't click.
Yet even though she seems to be trying to talk to me, her replies tend to be short and cold. In other words, I have no idea what she's doing. If it was not fun to talk to me, why bother coming back? If our conversations were enjoyable, why did she keep replying with just "Yup," or "Nope,"?
Stop wasting my time! I have more interested girls to fret over!
And studies.
So this morning, in reply to the last "Nope" she sent last night, I said that I had no idea why she even tried to talk to me when her numerous single-syllable replies implied boredom.
Enough is enough; stop dragging this. Even though she had friendzoned me, she's got to show more interest for us to be friends at all! Otherwise, we're just acquaintances.
24 May 2014
All of a sudden she had plenty to say, sending me practically a wall of text to explain, ending with a "you're too sensitive" remark.
Used to be that I'd believe that, but the last time someone said I was too sensitive, I had accused her of trying to promote some product and she turned out to be involved in some MLM nonsense.
In any case, I've got nothing better to do now. Just going to treat her like a guy.
I know I'm not smart but that is no reason for me not to act as if I know what I'm doing.
Apparently I display some signs of narcissistic personality disorder. However, after reading up on it more, it's probably just a false alarm. Lack of empathy? What?
But I'm probably more narcissistic than most regardless. Just look at the number of "I" that I use in this blog. I just can't help it!
26 May 2014
So I have a week to decide if I want to take up probably the most suitable job in the company - the IT management job.
It's crazy since I don't actually know much about the IT; the closest thing was the semester of C I took years ago in NTU. However, there really aren't that many low-level jobs available and I really want to take that first step, so the only option here is to learn it immediately.
I mean, compared to the other job they have, which is to find someone I can really trust who can do sales and travels often enough to certain countries, learning IT stuff is ridiculously easy.
Did something really rash today.
But it's so cool!
100% wool coat from Maison Martin Margiela. Hopefully it lasts because I don't foresee myself wearing it often in the near future. Maybe just wear it to Seoul.
Not exactly a blazer but neither is it an overcoat, so I'll just treat it as a winter jacket.
27th May 2014
After days of trying to avoid the truth, I finally mustered the courage to step onto the weighing scale...
87.5kg?!?!?! My best guess is that I lost fats and gained muscle mass during my reservist training, then lost muscle mass since then.
But probably leg muscles mostly since I haven't been training them. Instead, I've been training my arms since they improved the most after the field camp. Now I can almost do a chinup, and the only issue is the first half where I go from straightened arms to 90 degrees.
And when I do pushups, I have so my loose skin on my abdomen that it's gross. Seriously, it looks like I have a huge pair of testicles instead of a belly when I'm almost touching the floor.
My bro and his wife invited me to dinner on an unconfirmed date with her close friends. Looks like someone wants to play matchmaker. Didn't reject it but can't confirm until I know the date. There are other things going on in my life after all.
Tuesday, 20 May 2014
Rant 1195 / Strange Is The New Norm
25 April 2014
Yes! Another success! I mean another girl chats with me! And she's pretty cute too. Not sure about her personality yet but a success is a success.
This one is slightly different - I had forgotten to ask for her number on the 23rd, and I just couldn't let it go since it's so hard to find any girls below 30 in these clubs, so I emailed her my number via her profile page. Usually, this doesn't work, and this is actually the first time an email has worked for me.
Woot!
This may be good but I must not expect much here. Cute fresh grad. She's going to attract a lot of guys for sure, regardless of her personality.
And today I got some horrible news - my elder staff is quitting to take care of her grandchildren. She's the only one who can handle the sewing machine, so this is really bad news for me. First thing is to ask the other staff if the friends she mentioned have any ability in sewing. Second is to push all the admin work that the elder one used to do to her. Third is to persuade her to be willing to stay back slightly longer if the transporter is late, which he is sometimes during our peak seasons.
As for myself, I will have to go back more frequently to make sure the new employee is doing ok.
C'est la vie.
26th April 2014
Spent the morning exercising before going to my bro's gf's home to 过大礼. Turned out to be nothing. All we did was bring some pastries over and the parents gave us some stuff in return. Dowry I think. Since we had no parents and we don't give a damn about the dowry, we had to bring back some tubs and some of the pastries.
After that, I was free. Pretty awesome day chatting with two ladies. The new girl, I had already asked to join me for flamenco tomorrow but I don't believe she will come. Doesn't matter, if it doesn't work out, I move on as usual.
Brains and beauty. Just young and lost. Still unsure about her. She seems to be warming up to me pretty quickly but I can't tell yet what kind of person she is. NUS fresh grad confused about what career to pick. From China too, but I don't mind since she's been here for a while.
28th April 2014
Met the cutest and most bubbly girl so far during the dance workshop but didn't manage to talk to her because she left immediately after it was over. Sucked.
Couldn't get her out of my mind; she made every single girls I've encountered in the last few months look plain.
The worst thing is that since we never got to chat, there was no opportunity to get her number. Letting go of someone like this just like that feels bad.
Hence there is that possibility that this will be one of those people you really like but will only meet once and never again.
C'est la vie?
What is this shit?
Although my detective skills and google-fu have led me to her facebook account, this is information that is useless by itself, unless I discover what she likes and fake a coincidental encounter. Wow, I bet girls would think this is creepy! Why am I even thinking this?
Is she really that fantastic?
I couldn't get her out of my mind the entire day and I'm blogging about her now at 8am the following day, so... maybe.
Yet according to the FB page she's the artsy type and very, very outgoing. Probably way younger than me too.
The best normal thing I can do is attend the final workshop and hope she comes again.
Or I could PM her on FB and say that it wasn't too hard to find her there after seeing her name on the instructor's website. Would that be creepy or is that just my emotions talking?
Am I just being shallow? I know I'm usually quite shallow but is this purely shallowness?
Or maybe I'm just crazy for bubbly girls.
Tentatively, I will PM her just that, but I MUST give it a few days. Let's see if I cool down enough to think clearly by Wednesday. She really was that attractive!
I don't want to simply give up on girls like that.
Or I can see if she comes for the next workshop. If she does, I'll ask. Otherwise, I'll PM her saying that I checked the instructor's website out of an interest in her classes and happened to see her name.
Not sure if I'm patient enough for the latter though.
29th April 2014
Ok, the fresh grad is distracting me enough that I don't think of her that much anymore. I'll just wait till this Sunday and ask for her number if she's attending the workshop again. Otherwise, I may message her.
The grad girl, just like most of the other girls, needs time to warm up. A little on the pessimistic side though easy enough to get her to be more positive, though she needs regular reminders.
Young, idealistic and disappointed that reality falls short of her expectations after graduation, she's not looking to settle down so this could be good if we really can click.
I think I'm just being shallow here, but practice is practice. I need to practce chatting with the ladies, seriously. At this point, I have yet to ask a girl out for an actual date. How do I even approach this topic?
Ok, I've confirmed that masturbating daily is bad. It makes me a terrible conversationalist by making my mind very sluggish. No wonder married couples only have sex 2-3 times a week. How can they operate at work if they do it whenever they can?
This is going to suck but I will need to bring my old Nokia N8 phone to camp with me for internet access for my iPad.
It all began with the realization that I can no longer rely on the 3G0-USB-dongle-cum-mobile-router combination to get 3G for all my devices since I no longer carry a bag every time I go out. The last time I tried, I bent it too much while it was inside my pocket and broke something inside.
This means I need to use a phone for this and I'm ordering a Lenovo P780 to serve this function. This phone, though not sold by any retailer in Singapore, has an insanely huge battery (40000mAh) and is dual-SIM. Browsing the web and messaging normally will get a user 30 hours of usage!
The catch is that its OS is badly optimized and doesn't have Gorilla Glass, so maybe that's why Lenovo didn't bother to market it here.
I've ordered it for less than S$320 on Qoo10 and it's going to take two weeks to get here. By then, I'll be almost done with reservist training that's starting this week. Hence during the training, I need an alternative makeshift setup to get 3G for all my stuff.
The problem now is that N8 can only create an ad-hoc network with an app, and the Windows OS of my Lumia 520 doesn't work with such a network. I can put the 3G data SIM in the Lumia but I don't want the hassle of moving stuff around and losing Whatsapp conversations, so I'm going to use the expensive 3G just for these two weeks.
As for the N8, I'll use it for my iPad which can work with such a network.
After that, I'll have the new phone that will be using both the data SIM and the N8's, and I'll finally retire the N8.
I don't think the grad girl is interested. Either that or she's more introverted than she thinks she is. It's taking quite a bit of effort to get her to start chatting, and although she seems happy enough when we talk, she ends our conversations and never resumes any.
Time to move on.
19th May 2014
Today I embark on yet another strange journey in life, the second so far. Before, it was merely the taking over of a mature business. This time, the risks are far greater than what I've ever expected myself to take.
There is a great chance that all my effort in this venture will yield not a single dollar.
Exploring new fields isn't a new field anymore.
By this point, it is undeniable that I'm a gambler now.
It is strange how such opportunities just suddenly appear out of nowhere. Never saw either of them coming before they hit me, and I've always said yes so far. Wonder if they were wise decisions, but I'll never know till I summarise my life some day.
20th May 2014
As for girls, I've stopped searching for new choices since just before my ICT a fortnight ago. Right now, I am in the dilemma I expected to be in right from the beginning - two very nice girls who seem ready for long-term relationships now like me.
The chances of this happening were not high to me before, but here I am, not knowing who to choose.
One won't be back till mid-June, while the other does not live in Singapore. The former is more of an unknown but is very ready to go on a date when she returns; the latter is probably ready for marriage already. I'm not even exaggerating about the second girl - I have had the approval of her parents and several relatives for months now. Apparently they praise me all the time in front of her, and she always asked me when I would fly over.
The biggest issue, IMO, is the fact that I am a Chinese (Chinese in race) businessman. As a businessman in this part of the world, it is inevitable that I will not be 100% faithful to whoever I marry. If I am to entertain clients, there are things I have to do to fit in, and this is a fact that the girl I end up marrying must accept.
The first girl, whom I currently like slightly more, seems to be of the idealistic opinion that her boyfriend must never cheat on her. The second girl is extremely close to the wife of my banker cousin, and he thinks that she is the sort who will accept anything just like her cousin and probably already knows enough about his personal life from his wife.
Now that I've put it this way, the second girl does seem to be better wife material. However, the first girl may accept it once I explain it to her what I expect to do in my future if I am to make more than the pittance I do now.
Simplest solution here is to wait, date the first girl a few times, then talk about this. But then again, I will never know for sure if she will be ok with it forever.
And to clarify, the first girl is the grad girl I mentioned last month earlier in this post, while the second is the girl I did the bungee-jump with at Auckland.
Funny how things turned out when this cousin tried to be my wingman for an evening. None of the girls at the wedding were viable options - those who were still single were so for good reasons. The final result of that evening was the contact of a KTV hostess at some shitty bar. It was strange to find a decent girl at the place like that, but currently in my life, strange is the new norm.
We found her to be decent despite her job for a few reasons.
First, when we shook hands, her hands were cold.
Second, she was quiet and shy like myself. The only time I touched her was during the handshake.
Third, she told me she worked there only because the boss didn't force them to do things they didn't want to.
Fourth, she refused the tip from my cousin even when he doubled the S$20 to S$40. That was when he suggested that she should give me her number.
I have doubts - on the Internet, there are tales of such girls beguiling men with their sob stories. According to my wingman, she was good for a fling and I agree, but
1) I am not looking for flings.
2) She may be lying all along and one day may convince me.
3) If she's really honest, that's even less reason to do this to her.
So I stopped talking to her after a few words on WeChat. Net result of that evening: absolutely nothing but poor opinions of the girls at the wedding.
Speaking of the wedding, my impromptu speeches were so different in quality. I hadn't had time to prepare during my reservist training so I googled a bit before I boarded the minibus and thought it up on the way there.
It seems that my English speech was very good but my Cantonese one was embarassing. Woot! At least one was good given the amount of preparation that went into them.
I have guts? What does it mean to have guts? If having guts means the willingness to do what is necessary, then yes I do have them. Yet if it is something I have to do regardless, why am I considered to be brave to do it? I am merely doing whatever needs to be done, that's all.
Oh, this isn't good. A third girl is asking me out on a date. Got to stop all these now. A tough decision between two girls is hard enough.
Yes! Another success! I mean another girl chats with me! And she's pretty cute too. Not sure about her personality yet but a success is a success.
This one is slightly different - I had forgotten to ask for her number on the 23rd, and I just couldn't let it go since it's so hard to find any girls below 30 in these clubs, so I emailed her my number via her profile page. Usually, this doesn't work, and this is actually the first time an email has worked for me.
Woot!
This may be good but I must not expect much here. Cute fresh grad. She's going to attract a lot of guys for sure, regardless of her personality.
And today I got some horrible news - my elder staff is quitting to take care of her grandchildren. She's the only one who can handle the sewing machine, so this is really bad news for me. First thing is to ask the other staff if the friends she mentioned have any ability in sewing. Second is to push all the admin work that the elder one used to do to her. Third is to persuade her to be willing to stay back slightly longer if the transporter is late, which he is sometimes during our peak seasons.
As for myself, I will have to go back more frequently to make sure the new employee is doing ok.
C'est la vie.
26th April 2014
Spent the morning exercising before going to my bro's gf's home to 过大礼. Turned out to be nothing. All we did was bring some pastries over and the parents gave us some stuff in return. Dowry I think. Since we had no parents and we don't give a damn about the dowry, we had to bring back some tubs and some of the pastries.
After that, I was free. Pretty awesome day chatting with two ladies. The new girl, I had already asked to join me for flamenco tomorrow but I don't believe she will come. Doesn't matter, if it doesn't work out, I move on as usual.
Brains and beauty. Just young and lost. Still unsure about her. She seems to be warming up to me pretty quickly but I can't tell yet what kind of person she is. NUS fresh grad confused about what career to pick. From China too, but I don't mind since she's been here for a while.
28th April 2014
Met the cutest and most bubbly girl so far during the dance workshop but didn't manage to talk to her because she left immediately after it was over. Sucked.
Couldn't get her out of my mind; she made every single girls I've encountered in the last few months look plain.
The worst thing is that since we never got to chat, there was no opportunity to get her number. Letting go of someone like this just like that feels bad.
Hence there is that possibility that this will be one of those people you really like but will only meet once and never again.
C'est la vie?
What is this shit?
Although my detective skills and google-fu have led me to her facebook account, this is information that is useless by itself, unless I discover what she likes and fake a coincidental encounter. Wow, I bet girls would think this is creepy! Why am I even thinking this?
Is she really that fantastic?
I couldn't get her out of my mind the entire day and I'm blogging about her now at 8am the following day, so... maybe.
Yet according to the FB page she's the artsy type and very, very outgoing. Probably way younger than me too.
The best normal thing I can do is attend the final workshop and hope she comes again.
Or I could PM her on FB and say that it wasn't too hard to find her there after seeing her name on the instructor's website. Would that be creepy or is that just my emotions talking?
Am I just being shallow? I know I'm usually quite shallow but is this purely shallowness?
Or maybe I'm just crazy for bubbly girls.
Tentatively, I will PM her just that, but I MUST give it a few days. Let's see if I cool down enough to think clearly by Wednesday. She really was that attractive!
I don't want to simply give up on girls like that.
Or I can see if she comes for the next workshop. If she does, I'll ask. Otherwise, I'll PM her saying that I checked the instructor's website out of an interest in her classes and happened to see her name.
Not sure if I'm patient enough for the latter though.
29th April 2014
Ok, the fresh grad is distracting me enough that I don't think of her that much anymore. I'll just wait till this Sunday and ask for her number if she's attending the workshop again. Otherwise, I may message her.
The grad girl, just like most of the other girls, needs time to warm up. A little on the pessimistic side though easy enough to get her to be more positive, though she needs regular reminders.
Young, idealistic and disappointed that reality falls short of her expectations after graduation, she's not looking to settle down so this could be good if we really can click.
I think I'm just being shallow here, but practice is practice. I need to practce chatting with the ladies, seriously. At this point, I have yet to ask a girl out for an actual date. How do I even approach this topic?
Ok, I've confirmed that masturbating daily is bad. It makes me a terrible conversationalist by making my mind very sluggish. No wonder married couples only have sex 2-3 times a week. How can they operate at work if they do it whenever they can?
This is going to suck but I will need to bring my old Nokia N8 phone to camp with me for internet access for my iPad.
It all began with the realization that I can no longer rely on the 3G0-USB-dongle-cum-mobile-router combination to get 3G for all my devices since I no longer carry a bag every time I go out. The last time I tried, I bent it too much while it was inside my pocket and broke something inside.
This means I need to use a phone for this and I'm ordering a Lenovo P780 to serve this function. This phone, though not sold by any retailer in Singapore, has an insanely huge battery (40000mAh) and is dual-SIM. Browsing the web and messaging normally will get a user 30 hours of usage!
The catch is that its OS is badly optimized and doesn't have Gorilla Glass, so maybe that's why Lenovo didn't bother to market it here.
I've ordered it for less than S$320 on Qoo10 and it's going to take two weeks to get here. By then, I'll be almost done with reservist training that's starting this week. Hence during the training, I need an alternative makeshift setup to get 3G for all my stuff.
The problem now is that N8 can only create an ad-hoc network with an app, and the Windows OS of my Lumia 520 doesn't work with such a network. I can put the 3G data SIM in the Lumia but I don't want the hassle of moving stuff around and losing Whatsapp conversations, so I'm going to use the expensive 3G just for these two weeks.
As for the N8, I'll use it for my iPad which can work with such a network.
After that, I'll have the new phone that will be using both the data SIM and the N8's, and I'll finally retire the N8.
I don't think the grad girl is interested. Either that or she's more introverted than she thinks she is. It's taking quite a bit of effort to get her to start chatting, and although she seems happy enough when we talk, she ends our conversations and never resumes any.
Time to move on.
19th May 2014
Today I embark on yet another strange journey in life, the second so far. Before, it was merely the taking over of a mature business. This time, the risks are far greater than what I've ever expected myself to take.
There is a great chance that all my effort in this venture will yield not a single dollar.
Exploring new fields isn't a new field anymore.
By this point, it is undeniable that I'm a gambler now.
It is strange how such opportunities just suddenly appear out of nowhere. Never saw either of them coming before they hit me, and I've always said yes so far. Wonder if they were wise decisions, but I'll never know till I summarise my life some day.
20th May 2014
As for girls, I've stopped searching for new choices since just before my ICT a fortnight ago. Right now, I am in the dilemma I expected to be in right from the beginning - two very nice girls who seem ready for long-term relationships now like me.
The chances of this happening were not high to me before, but here I am, not knowing who to choose.
One won't be back till mid-June, while the other does not live in Singapore. The former is more of an unknown but is very ready to go on a date when she returns; the latter is probably ready for marriage already. I'm not even exaggerating about the second girl - I have had the approval of her parents and several relatives for months now. Apparently they praise me all the time in front of her, and she always asked me when I would fly over.
The biggest issue, IMO, is the fact that I am a Chinese (Chinese in race) businessman. As a businessman in this part of the world, it is inevitable that I will not be 100% faithful to whoever I marry. If I am to entertain clients, there are things I have to do to fit in, and this is a fact that the girl I end up marrying must accept.
The first girl, whom I currently like slightly more, seems to be of the idealistic opinion that her boyfriend must never cheat on her. The second girl is extremely close to the wife of my banker cousin, and he thinks that she is the sort who will accept anything just like her cousin and probably already knows enough about his personal life from his wife.
Now that I've put it this way, the second girl does seem to be better wife material. However, the first girl may accept it once I explain it to her what I expect to do in my future if I am to make more than the pittance I do now.
Simplest solution here is to wait, date the first girl a few times, then talk about this. But then again, I will never know for sure if she will be ok with it forever.
And to clarify, the first girl is the grad girl I mentioned last month earlier in this post, while the second is the girl I did the bungee-jump with at Auckland.
Funny how things turned out when this cousin tried to be my wingman for an evening. None of the girls at the wedding were viable options - those who were still single were so for good reasons. The final result of that evening was the contact of a KTV hostess at some shitty bar. It was strange to find a decent girl at the place like that, but currently in my life, strange is the new norm.
We found her to be decent despite her job for a few reasons.
First, when we shook hands, her hands were cold.
Second, she was quiet and shy like myself. The only time I touched her was during the handshake.
Third, she told me she worked there only because the boss didn't force them to do things they didn't want to.
Fourth, she refused the tip from my cousin even when he doubled the S$20 to S$40. That was when he suggested that she should give me her number.
I have doubts - on the Internet, there are tales of such girls beguiling men with their sob stories. According to my wingman, she was good for a fling and I agree, but
1) I am not looking for flings.
2) She may be lying all along and one day may convince me.
3) If she's really honest, that's even less reason to do this to her.
So I stopped talking to her after a few words on WeChat. Net result of that evening: absolutely nothing but poor opinions of the girls at the wedding.
Speaking of the wedding, my impromptu speeches were so different in quality. I hadn't had time to prepare during my reservist training so I googled a bit before I boarded the minibus and thought it up on the way there.
It seems that my English speech was very good but my Cantonese one was embarassing. Woot! At least one was good given the amount of preparation that went into them.
I have guts? What does it mean to have guts? If having guts means the willingness to do what is necessary, then yes I do have them. Yet if it is something I have to do regardless, why am I considered to be brave to do it? I am merely doing whatever needs to be done, that's all.
Oh, this isn't good. A third girl is asking me out on a date. Got to stop all these now. A tough decision between two girls is hard enough.
Friday, 25 April 2014
Rant 1194 / Movies First, Everything Else Second
27 March 2014
So I recently bought a set meal from the Korea Food Company instead of just the bibimbap like my first order there, and what I found really surprised me.
The kimchi was fantastic, far better than those I usually find in Korean restaurants in Seoul! The spring onion in it really made a huge difference. Next time, I'm ordering the other kimchis in their menu, like the radish kimchi, and when I go to NZ at the end of the year, I will bring a jar of this kimchi over since my uncle likes it.
$11 for a 1kg jar? Worth it.
The bibimbap was split over three meals although it was meant for 5-6 people, and it made me gain 4kgs temporarily. The japchae, which appeared to be glass noodles with vegetables, was awesome because of the sesame seed oil and sesame seeds. Finally, the chilli anchovies were a nice snack.
Now what shall I do with the steel chopsticks?
28th March 2014
Initially planned to chill at home this fine Friday evening and watch GSL on the new Twitch channel, maybe play The Last Remnant that I had just bought on Steam, but some chiobu asked me out for movie, got to give face.
Ok, that was an exaggeration. She's good-looking but not to the point of being a "chiobu", and there are a few others in the group. It was funny how she phrased it: "a select few". This made it sound so exclusive, as if there were some special criteria we had to fulfil before she would invite us.
TBH I have no idea why I was invited since I've only met her once and after that, I didn't go beyond asking her about the disappearance of a photo she uploaded for the last outing. Maybe I'm just too new to this; maybe this is supposed to be normal.
But there is nothing on my schedule tonight, so it's fine. There is a slight problem though - no pants! I'll have to wear the pair of old jeans again. Sucks to have just a single pair of dress pants. Can't wait till three other pairs are done next week.
Worried about my waistline now. Although my weight has remained below 90kg so far, I've been eating more stuff recently. Tried to offset this by having just a protein shake to replace meals (even though they aren't meal replacements) and it may have worked so far.
Bought a jar of meal replacement thing from iHerb though. Hopefully it will last longer than the two hours this protein shake gives.
Speaking of my fitness, I've finally managed to do one set of 10 reps of lateral raises using 5kg weights without stopping!
Woot!
Whoever thinks it's a waste of time to do just 3 sets of 10 of weights everyday needs to rethink this. It works, just slowly.
29th March 2014
So it seems I still lack experience when interacting with friendly people - I wasn't the only person she invited whom she's only met once.
The Japanese event was a little awkward. The entire place was filled with Japanese people and apparently, our meetup group didn't sit together, so everyone around me was speaking Japanese. Still, it was interesting. Tried to talk to them a little but they all knew each other so it was hard to join in their conversations, especially since they all spoke Japanese to each other.
Heirloom vegetables, as they call it. They really were species of vegetables they used to grow but are no longer as valuable as the more conventional species we eat today. It's more of an economic and social change, as farmers find that other species created by agricultural companies yielded bigger harvests, tastier produce or just better-looking ones.
Urban-dwellers don't have the expertise to tell whether an uglier-looking fruit can be sweeter, so the appearance is important.
This event is meant to increase awareness for these crops, especially since plenty of them have really gone extinct already. I thought this was just pure nostalgia to be honest, because if they really are as tasty as they say, they would be valuable enough to be grown by more farmers. The fact is that they just aren't worth the time and effort to grow.
Sorry if this offends any farmers or Japanese people, but I just feel that this is the undeniable truth.
Natural selection.
The singles event tonight was much bigger and a lot more interesting. While playing the icebreaking game, a group of ladies old enough to be my mother told me to forget the game - they could just give me their numbers directly.
I was like, ok, go ahead. Not sure why, especially since I do not plan to call them. But somehow it was funny when another girl gave me her number on the same piece of paper and got surprised by how "popular" I was.
Anyway, two girls out of the 20-plus there gave me their numbers and promised to call me. Not sure if this is good or bad, but this will be my benchmark. Probably bad, but we've all got to start somewhere.
One of them was probably way older than me, had a horrible job and liked to run (not sure why she thought we click), while the other looked close to my age and appeared more interesting. For the former, I felt more sympathy than interest.
Maybe I should go for more of these events, just to thicken my skin. It took a bit of guts to talk to every girl there, even though I ended up only remembering the names of three girls. Everyone else on the paper, I don't remember anymore.
Another thing I noticed is that my job does turn heads. If I just introduce myself, some of the girls appeared completely uninterested and would just turn away once we were done with the icebreaking game. But when I talked about what I do, at least one girl turned her head and decided to join our conversation instead.
Those steel chopsticks were surprisingly light! Must be hollow, unlike the ones I always use in Korea. Nice!
30th March 2014
Chatted with one of the girls who promised to call me. Turned out to be trying to promote something. All she wanted to talk about was that, and when I told her directly that I was not interested in it, she just ended it with "Good night"... at 8pm.
Now I move on to the last girl I'm going to talk to whom I've met last evening.
31st March 2014
We could've had it AAAAAALLLLLLLL!!!
Looking back, I have no idea what I'm doing specifically. The general direction is still there but the details are lost in the mess. I'm just going with the flow. My flow.
It's been exciting and the flow does not look like it will be ebbing anytime soon.
Approaching and chatting with one of the hottest girls that evening while being completely sober was another new thing I've never done before. New step? New milestone? Waste of time? All of the above?
Heck, I'm moving on anyway. Next step: finding someone who can click with me (and is still single and is not overly-mature).
01 April 2014
Mixing normal crappy kimchi with the nice kimchi doesn't work :(
Got to see if the Korean shops nearby sell this kimchi with spring onions, otherwise I'm going to have to keep buying from them.
Or, I'm going to have to make it myself. Could be fun! I'm a little tired of those cheap ones I find in supermarkets that are sometimes more sour than usual because it was either not stored properly or have been out for too long. Still edible, just not as pleasant. Apparently, some people do like their kimchi more sour, so they just place it outside the fridge for a couple of hours.
Mixed day. Today I spent the day watch the guys from the town council carry some old furniture out because my bro's getting some new ones over. Like a sofa. Haven't had a sofa in years!
Needed one because the relatives of his wife will be coming to visit during festivals.
Wonder what's going to happen if I get married too. Going to be interesting.
Rearranged my room too, after removing the shittier wardrobe, leaving me with my parent's one which is way sturdier despite its age. Dusty too, lots of dustballs were revealed when I shifted it.
Now my room is a lot roomier. Now for the rest of the house.
That was really tiring but turned out to be good exercise because my aim really improved tonight in NS2.
And the two girls I'm still chatting with seem to be warming up to me. Blatant flattery really seems to work, but I will need more evidence to make a solid conclusion. My words were sincere, but the old me would never have said such things to girls I barely know.
So I really did make less than last year, as expected. But only by a few thousands, so I made more than expected. It's actually good news from my perspective. This year, I'm sure it will be better.
02 April 2014
Joined the Marco Polo Club. Doesn't sound too hard to fulfil the minimum requirements for automatic renewal annually. They require 4 trips every 12 months, and I'm already flying at least twice a year just for work at the end of the year. Adding another 2 isn't hard, especially since I plan to skydive this year, making it 3 trips. Next Chinese New Year, I'm going to fly to Hong Kong, so that's 4. Easy.
So my new portable routers arrived and I discovered that they don't support HSDPA, while my 3G USB dongle uses that.
/facepalm.
Still no 3G then.
Clutches that can fit my iPad are so hard to find in retail stores here!
04 April 2014
So I somehow sat close to that desperate girl I met previously after the movie last night, and she turned out to be so obnoxious!
There was a Swedish guy next to me, and she went straight to admitting that she's one of the "10% of Singapore girls who like white guys only", before moving on to "What do you think about local guys?"
That was a weird question, a hilariously weird one.
He ended up saying we were friendly, to which she replied," What? Really? Like him?" while pointing to me. I was like "WHAT?"
Wow! No wonder she's single and desperate at 30. Not desperate enough to be nice though. And I thought I was insensitive!
Am I not friendly?!?
Noah was boring at some parts. Draggy. Not my kind of film.
The clutch has arrived and it's big enough for A4-size papers. Wonder if I will like it. Will find out soon enough. Came with a cardholder as a freebie which I'm using immediately.
So one of the girls I talked to at the singles event is really trying to ask me out now, but starting with group gatherings, or more specifically, a cycling event. Still wondering how much older she is than me, and what sort of girl she actually is. She doesn't say much, prone to single-syllable replies sometimes without elaborating like I used to. All I can tell is that she's warming up to me and she likes the flattery. Not sure about her overall.
The other girl, I like more at the moment. She's easier to talk to and ALWAYS replies whenever she can, frequently with long answers. She accepts the flattery quietly but clearly wants to begin as friends. A serious Christian too. The worst issue here is her schedule, because her job takes up a lot of her time, and she's got plenty of other people to go out with.
Seems that again, the harder a girl is, the more I like her. But too cold, like some others, and I feel like I'm wasting my time if I talk to them.
Or maybe I just like girls who actually talk with more than single-word replies.
One thing I've really noticed about myself is that I don't give a shit if a girl describes herself as "simple". People are never simple, and it does not matter to me at all whether they are that. What's so attractive about simple people? Aren't they boring?
It seems that the issue with my 3G stuff is not because of compatibility but the SIM card itself. Tried it in my old phone and it didn't work. I'm going to have to go down to one of the M1 customer service centres to replace it. Ugh.
Bought several shirts from Gilt. Despite spending almost S$500 there on four shirts and some tie bars, I don't really feel guilty though because my wardrobe is still going to be smaller than my bro's. Still planning to buy more from some local department store.
Also got a pair of jeans and a belt yesterday from Levi's using the Groupon voucher, so that I can return the pair I'm currently wearing to my bro. It's pretty worn and very comfy, so he really wants it back lol.
So now I have 3 pairs of jeans, a dark blue one that's still at the tailor, a somewhat faded one from Levi's and a black one from Density. The first two are classic straight fit, but the last is a low-rise slim fit. Don't really like low rise though, but I guess it's normal enough that I may wear it sometimes. I like its fabric the most, so that's the main reason for keeping it.
05 April 2014
So I went to M1 and realized that the SIM card was fine. Dang, need a new dongle.
Two things I've noticed about flattering girls:
1) When a girl says something nice about you, even if she's simply being polite, say that she's sweet. Remind her some time later, eg you have to go to work/exercise and couldn't continue chatting regardless of how sweet she was.
2) When she encourages you to do something, say that since a cute/pretty/hot/gorgeous girl is supporting you, you will definitely do it.
Simple rudimentary stuff I'm picking up from trials-and-error that seem to work. Got to be sincere though.
Went to Levi's and picked up the new pair of jeans and the brown belt. The jeans needed to be shortened. Now I have a belt that matches my suede shoes, but my suede shoes are being cleaned for a month. Oh well.
At least now I don't have to wear my bro's jeans anymore. May still want to get an even lighter pair though.
Also, I've confirmed that I really don't like low-rise jeans. Really. So I'm going to either donate it or trade it in.
Went to take a look at the T M Lewin store at Plaza Singapura too, and they're having a sale, so every shirt costs $100 or less. So going to buy them soon. Maybe 3, maybe 6. Not sure.
21 April 2014
Long time no blog!
First, the SIM card. It was ok. The issue was that when telco customers get the free USB dongle for the SIM card, its settings have been set by the telco to run straight away on the correct options. With the one I bought from some random Chinese online store, it took me a while to realize I had to set everything myself.
Now it works!
But the battery-cum-router was a disappointment - it lasted five hours, not ten as advertised.
Got a second clutch that looks better than the plain black ones. Too bad the magnet sucks, but I'm getting used to using one now.
T.M. Lewin shirts are too big. The fabric of their non-iron series is awesome but the cutting is too big for a big Asian guy like myself even when I chose only the slim fit shirts. On the other hand, Goldlion shirts are fantastic. From now on, I'm going for those brands instead. As for pants, Pierre Cardin and Goldlion do have very nice pants, so no worries. Cheap too, compared to the chinos I used to get from JShopper.
Flamenco was fun. Very hard too, needed quite a bit of concentration to coordinate all my limbs and maintain my posture at the same time. Somehow the instructore and the other guy attending the workshop kept telling me that I did very well throughout the 2-hour lesson even though I'm 100% sure I kept missing SO MANY STEPS all the time, with or without music. It's harder with music.
Anyway that particular class was on alegrias (a form of flamenco) so even the beats took some getting used to. It was a 12-beat rhythm instead of the 4, 8 or 16 beats we're all used to, and emphasis while clapping to them was on the 3rd, 6th, 8th, 10th and 12th beats.
The instructor was big on the techniques. Not only did she keep watching our posture, she made sure we did the stamping the correct way, which is NOT to stamp it with force but simply let go after lifting the foot.
Both were due to safety concerns. The posture made sure we didn't injure our back, just tire it; the stamping would kill our knees if we did it forcefully.
This, apparently, was different from most other instructors because they actually encouraged stamping hard. As for posture, they didn't care too much because girls tend to not find it good-looking - the correct posture does not involve sticking their butts out. Since girls like to look good while dancing, the instructors can't do much about it.
This instructor, on the other hand, is pretty new and had studied under one of the most prominent instructors in Spain, apparently a master of the castanets (an instrument played with certain styles of flamenco).
"I love National Geographic. The mating habits of mid-level government employees, totally captivating."
Best line ever.
23 April 2014
Looking back, I don't seem to be particularly good at talking to girls. During the most recent movie outings, one girl asked for my number (without doing anything with it) while another turned cold the day after we met even though we were getting along so well when we shared a cab home.
Result at this moment: just one girl still chatting with me, the attached one whom I've mentioned before.
Still going to try. As long as girls are asking for my number, it can't be going too badly :D
But seriously, I have no idea why the latter got so unresponsive. Next time we meet, I'll try that line I've used on another unresponsive girl before that got me a positive reaction, something about how it's hard to compete with the 20 other guys also trying to chat her up after that evening. The problem is that she rarely attends these events so this is going to be just something I'll keep in mind.
TBH I'd be surprised if she's still single. She's friendly, good-looking and nice enough to pay for my share of the taxi fare that evening (then refused to accept my payment afterwards). How can a girl like that still be single, unless there's a major catch somewhere?
Anyway, I'll be going for a chick flick this evening with 2 other guys... and 14 girls. Hopefully, things will go well tonight.
Also, managed to persuade another girl to go for the flamenco workshop this Sunday, but she's way older than me, so it's purely to support the instructor.
Maybe I'll even try the actual classes held by the instructor.
My Marco Polo card is here!!
Comes with two special classy baggage tags too!
Cool!
Green member now, which only gets me priority boarding in addition to these tags, but it's a start :D
24th April 2014
Tired for some reason. Managed to hit 88kg (lowest point so far) yesterday so I ate a lot last night.
Disappointing though because no one stayed for coffee after the movie, and I forgot to get the number of the only girl I was interested in. Oh well, next time then. As for today, it's going to be all guys, with just two ladies I have already known for several weeks. Brick Mansions, it's a guy movie.
Probably my favourite Skrillex music.
So I recently bought a set meal from the Korea Food Company instead of just the bibimbap like my first order there, and what I found really surprised me.
The kimchi was fantastic, far better than those I usually find in Korean restaurants in Seoul! The spring onion in it really made a huge difference. Next time, I'm ordering the other kimchis in their menu, like the radish kimchi, and when I go to NZ at the end of the year, I will bring a jar of this kimchi over since my uncle likes it.
$11 for a 1kg jar? Worth it.
The bibimbap was split over three meals although it was meant for 5-6 people, and it made me gain 4kgs temporarily. The japchae, which appeared to be glass noodles with vegetables, was awesome because of the sesame seed oil and sesame seeds. Finally, the chilli anchovies were a nice snack.
Now what shall I do with the steel chopsticks?
28th March 2014
Initially planned to chill at home this fine Friday evening and watch GSL on the new Twitch channel, maybe play The Last Remnant that I had just bought on Steam, but some chiobu asked me out for movie, got to give face.
Ok, that was an exaggeration. She's good-looking but not to the point of being a "chiobu", and there are a few others in the group. It was funny how she phrased it: "a select few". This made it sound so exclusive, as if there were some special criteria we had to fulfil before she would invite us.
TBH I have no idea why I was invited since I've only met her once and after that, I didn't go beyond asking her about the disappearance of a photo she uploaded for the last outing. Maybe I'm just too new to this; maybe this is supposed to be normal.
But there is nothing on my schedule tonight, so it's fine. There is a slight problem though - no pants! I'll have to wear the pair of old jeans again. Sucks to have just a single pair of dress pants. Can't wait till three other pairs are done next week.
Worried about my waistline now. Although my weight has remained below 90kg so far, I've been eating more stuff recently. Tried to offset this by having just a protein shake to replace meals (even though they aren't meal replacements) and it may have worked so far.
Bought a jar of meal replacement thing from iHerb though. Hopefully it will last longer than the two hours this protein shake gives.
Speaking of my fitness, I've finally managed to do one set of 10 reps of lateral raises using 5kg weights without stopping!
Woot!
Whoever thinks it's a waste of time to do just 3 sets of 10 of weights everyday needs to rethink this. It works, just slowly.
29th March 2014
So it seems I still lack experience when interacting with friendly people - I wasn't the only person she invited whom she's only met once.
The Japanese event was a little awkward. The entire place was filled with Japanese people and apparently, our meetup group didn't sit together, so everyone around me was speaking Japanese. Still, it was interesting. Tried to talk to them a little but they all knew each other so it was hard to join in their conversations, especially since they all spoke Japanese to each other.
Heirloom vegetables, as they call it. They really were species of vegetables they used to grow but are no longer as valuable as the more conventional species we eat today. It's more of an economic and social change, as farmers find that other species created by agricultural companies yielded bigger harvests, tastier produce or just better-looking ones.
Urban-dwellers don't have the expertise to tell whether an uglier-looking fruit can be sweeter, so the appearance is important.
This event is meant to increase awareness for these crops, especially since plenty of them have really gone extinct already. I thought this was just pure nostalgia to be honest, because if they really are as tasty as they say, they would be valuable enough to be grown by more farmers. The fact is that they just aren't worth the time and effort to grow.
Sorry if this offends any farmers or Japanese people, but I just feel that this is the undeniable truth.
Natural selection.
The singles event tonight was much bigger and a lot more interesting. While playing the icebreaking game, a group of ladies old enough to be my mother told me to forget the game - they could just give me their numbers directly.
I was like, ok, go ahead. Not sure why, especially since I do not plan to call them. But somehow it was funny when another girl gave me her number on the same piece of paper and got surprised by how "popular" I was.
Anyway, two girls out of the 20-plus there gave me their numbers and promised to call me. Not sure if this is good or bad, but this will be my benchmark. Probably bad, but we've all got to start somewhere.
One of them was probably way older than me, had a horrible job and liked to run (not sure why she thought we click), while the other looked close to my age and appeared more interesting. For the former, I felt more sympathy than interest.
Maybe I should go for more of these events, just to thicken my skin. It took a bit of guts to talk to every girl there, even though I ended up only remembering the names of three girls. Everyone else on the paper, I don't remember anymore.
Another thing I noticed is that my job does turn heads. If I just introduce myself, some of the girls appeared completely uninterested and would just turn away once we were done with the icebreaking game. But when I talked about what I do, at least one girl turned her head and decided to join our conversation instead.
Those steel chopsticks were surprisingly light! Must be hollow, unlike the ones I always use in Korea. Nice!
30th March 2014
Chatted with one of the girls who promised to call me. Turned out to be trying to promote something. All she wanted to talk about was that, and when I told her directly that I was not interested in it, she just ended it with "Good night"... at 8pm.
Now I move on to the last girl I'm going to talk to whom I've met last evening.
31st March 2014
We could've had it AAAAAALLLLLLLL!!!
Looking back, I have no idea what I'm doing specifically. The general direction is still there but the details are lost in the mess. I'm just going with the flow. My flow.
It's been exciting and the flow does not look like it will be ebbing anytime soon.
Approaching and chatting with one of the hottest girls that evening while being completely sober was another new thing I've never done before. New step? New milestone? Waste of time? All of the above?
Heck, I'm moving on anyway. Next step: finding someone who can click with me (and is still single and is not overly-mature).
01 April 2014
Mixing normal crappy kimchi with the nice kimchi doesn't work :(
Got to see if the Korean shops nearby sell this kimchi with spring onions, otherwise I'm going to have to keep buying from them.
Or, I'm going to have to make it myself. Could be fun! I'm a little tired of those cheap ones I find in supermarkets that are sometimes more sour than usual because it was either not stored properly or have been out for too long. Still edible, just not as pleasant. Apparently, some people do like their kimchi more sour, so they just place it outside the fridge for a couple of hours.
Mixed day. Today I spent the day watch the guys from the town council carry some old furniture out because my bro's getting some new ones over. Like a sofa. Haven't had a sofa in years!
Needed one because the relatives of his wife will be coming to visit during festivals.
Wonder what's going to happen if I get married too. Going to be interesting.
Rearranged my room too, after removing the shittier wardrobe, leaving me with my parent's one which is way sturdier despite its age. Dusty too, lots of dustballs were revealed when I shifted it.
Now my room is a lot roomier. Now for the rest of the house.
That was really tiring but turned out to be good exercise because my aim really improved tonight in NS2.
And the two girls I'm still chatting with seem to be warming up to me. Blatant flattery really seems to work, but I will need more evidence to make a solid conclusion. My words were sincere, but the old me would never have said such things to girls I barely know.
So I really did make less than last year, as expected. But only by a few thousands, so I made more than expected. It's actually good news from my perspective. This year, I'm sure it will be better.
02 April 2014
Joined the Marco Polo Club. Doesn't sound too hard to fulfil the minimum requirements for automatic renewal annually. They require 4 trips every 12 months, and I'm already flying at least twice a year just for work at the end of the year. Adding another 2 isn't hard, especially since I plan to skydive this year, making it 3 trips. Next Chinese New Year, I'm going to fly to Hong Kong, so that's 4. Easy.
So my new portable routers arrived and I discovered that they don't support HSDPA, while my 3G USB dongle uses that.
/facepalm.
Still no 3G then.
Clutches that can fit my iPad are so hard to find in retail stores here!
04 April 2014
So I somehow sat close to that desperate girl I met previously after the movie last night, and she turned out to be so obnoxious!
There was a Swedish guy next to me, and she went straight to admitting that she's one of the "10% of Singapore girls who like white guys only", before moving on to "What do you think about local guys?"
That was a weird question, a hilariously weird one.
He ended up saying we were friendly, to which she replied," What? Really? Like him?" while pointing to me. I was like "WHAT?"
Wow! No wonder she's single and desperate at 30. Not desperate enough to be nice though. And I thought I was insensitive!
Am I not friendly?!?
Noah was boring at some parts. Draggy. Not my kind of film.
The clutch has arrived and it's big enough for A4-size papers. Wonder if I will like it. Will find out soon enough. Came with a cardholder as a freebie which I'm using immediately.
So one of the girls I talked to at the singles event is really trying to ask me out now, but starting with group gatherings, or more specifically, a cycling event. Still wondering how much older she is than me, and what sort of girl she actually is. She doesn't say much, prone to single-syllable replies sometimes without elaborating like I used to. All I can tell is that she's warming up to me and she likes the flattery. Not sure about her overall.
The other girl, I like more at the moment. She's easier to talk to and ALWAYS replies whenever she can, frequently with long answers. She accepts the flattery quietly but clearly wants to begin as friends. A serious Christian too. The worst issue here is her schedule, because her job takes up a lot of her time, and she's got plenty of other people to go out with.
Seems that again, the harder a girl is, the more I like her. But too cold, like some others, and I feel like I'm wasting my time if I talk to them.
Or maybe I just like girls who actually talk with more than single-word replies.
One thing I've really noticed about myself is that I don't give a shit if a girl describes herself as "simple". People are never simple, and it does not matter to me at all whether they are that. What's so attractive about simple people? Aren't they boring?
It seems that the issue with my 3G stuff is not because of compatibility but the SIM card itself. Tried it in my old phone and it didn't work. I'm going to have to go down to one of the M1 customer service centres to replace it. Ugh.
Bought several shirts from Gilt. Despite spending almost S$500 there on four shirts and some tie bars, I don't really feel guilty though because my wardrobe is still going to be smaller than my bro's. Still planning to buy more from some local department store.
Also got a pair of jeans and a belt yesterday from Levi's using the Groupon voucher, so that I can return the pair I'm currently wearing to my bro. It's pretty worn and very comfy, so he really wants it back lol.
So now I have 3 pairs of jeans, a dark blue one that's still at the tailor, a somewhat faded one from Levi's and a black one from Density. The first two are classic straight fit, but the last is a low-rise slim fit. Don't really like low rise though, but I guess it's normal enough that I may wear it sometimes. I like its fabric the most, so that's the main reason for keeping it.
05 April 2014
So I went to M1 and realized that the SIM card was fine. Dang, need a new dongle.
Two things I've noticed about flattering girls:
1) When a girl says something nice about you, even if she's simply being polite, say that she's sweet. Remind her some time later, eg you have to go to work/exercise and couldn't continue chatting regardless of how sweet she was.
2) When she encourages you to do something, say that since a cute/pretty/hot/gorgeous girl is supporting you, you will definitely do it.
Simple rudimentary stuff I'm picking up from trials-and-error that seem to work. Got to be sincere though.
Went to Levi's and picked up the new pair of jeans and the brown belt. The jeans needed to be shortened. Now I have a belt that matches my suede shoes, but my suede shoes are being cleaned for a month. Oh well.
At least now I don't have to wear my bro's jeans anymore. May still want to get an even lighter pair though.
Also, I've confirmed that I really don't like low-rise jeans. Really. So I'm going to either donate it or trade it in.
Went to take a look at the T M Lewin store at Plaza Singapura too, and they're having a sale, so every shirt costs $100 or less. So going to buy them soon. Maybe 3, maybe 6. Not sure.
21 April 2014
Long time no blog!
First, the SIM card. It was ok. The issue was that when telco customers get the free USB dongle for the SIM card, its settings have been set by the telco to run straight away on the correct options. With the one I bought from some random Chinese online store, it took me a while to realize I had to set everything myself.
Now it works!
But the battery-cum-router was a disappointment - it lasted five hours, not ten as advertised.
Got a second clutch that looks better than the plain black ones. Too bad the magnet sucks, but I'm getting used to using one now.
T.M. Lewin shirts are too big. The fabric of their non-iron series is awesome but the cutting is too big for a big Asian guy like myself even when I chose only the slim fit shirts. On the other hand, Goldlion shirts are fantastic. From now on, I'm going for those brands instead. As for pants, Pierre Cardin and Goldlion do have very nice pants, so no worries. Cheap too, compared to the chinos I used to get from JShopper.
Flamenco was fun. Very hard too, needed quite a bit of concentration to coordinate all my limbs and maintain my posture at the same time. Somehow the instructore and the other guy attending the workshop kept telling me that I did very well throughout the 2-hour lesson even though I'm 100% sure I kept missing SO MANY STEPS all the time, with or without music. It's harder with music.
Anyway that particular class was on alegrias (a form of flamenco) so even the beats took some getting used to. It was a 12-beat rhythm instead of the 4, 8 or 16 beats we're all used to, and emphasis while clapping to them was on the 3rd, 6th, 8th, 10th and 12th beats.
The instructor was big on the techniques. Not only did she keep watching our posture, she made sure we did the stamping the correct way, which is NOT to stamp it with force but simply let go after lifting the foot.
Both were due to safety concerns. The posture made sure we didn't injure our back, just tire it; the stamping would kill our knees if we did it forcefully.
This, apparently, was different from most other instructors because they actually encouraged stamping hard. As for posture, they didn't care too much because girls tend to not find it good-looking - the correct posture does not involve sticking their butts out. Since girls like to look good while dancing, the instructors can't do much about it.
This instructor, on the other hand, is pretty new and had studied under one of the most prominent instructors in Spain, apparently a master of the castanets (an instrument played with certain styles of flamenco).
"I love National Geographic. The mating habits of mid-level government employees, totally captivating."
Best line ever.
23 April 2014
Looking back, I don't seem to be particularly good at talking to girls. During the most recent movie outings, one girl asked for my number (without doing anything with it) while another turned cold the day after we met even though we were getting along so well when we shared a cab home.
Result at this moment: just one girl still chatting with me, the attached one whom I've mentioned before.
Still going to try. As long as girls are asking for my number, it can't be going too badly :D
But seriously, I have no idea why the latter got so unresponsive. Next time we meet, I'll try that line I've used on another unresponsive girl before that got me a positive reaction, something about how it's hard to compete with the 20 other guys also trying to chat her up after that evening. The problem is that she rarely attends these events so this is going to be just something I'll keep in mind.
TBH I'd be surprised if she's still single. She's friendly, good-looking and nice enough to pay for my share of the taxi fare that evening (then refused to accept my payment afterwards). How can a girl like that still be single, unless there's a major catch somewhere?
Anyway, I'll be going for a chick flick this evening with 2 other guys... and 14 girls. Hopefully, things will go well tonight.
Also, managed to persuade another girl to go for the flamenco workshop this Sunday, but she's way older than me, so it's purely to support the instructor.
Maybe I'll even try the actual classes held by the instructor.
My Marco Polo card is here!!
Comes with two special classy baggage tags too!
Cool!
Green member now, which only gets me priority boarding in addition to these tags, but it's a start :D
24th April 2014
Tired for some reason. Managed to hit 88kg (lowest point so far) yesterday so I ate a lot last night.
Disappointing though because no one stayed for coffee after the movie, and I forgot to get the number of the only girl I was interested in. Oh well, next time then. As for today, it's going to be all guys, with just two ladies I have already known for several weeks. Brick Mansions, it's a guy movie.
Probably my favourite Skrillex music.
Monday, 24 March 2014
Rant 1193 / Still Going Up! Still Going Up. Up Is The Only Path!
Note: It's obvious that I look really stupid in the earlier parts of this post and I
have considered not publishing them, but I think I will go ahead and
post everything. My life isn't perfect and I'm not a particularly smart
guy; hiding it here while I'm semi-anonymous is pretty pointless.
17 March 2014
Great success!
She's just... Whoa! If not for the fact that she's Muslim, she'd be too good to be true. Yea, that's the catch, and a huge one lol.
But the things she's been doing, WOW! No wonder she gave her number so quickly! Such an extrovert! She's totally my role model now!
At 22, she's already planning to start an aqua gym within 3-4 years - in New York. I don't think she's lying because she really does travel a lot, and have photos to back up her travel stories. Yea, her family used to be rich, so she's really a different breed compared to me and people I know. So ok, my family used to be rich too, but I didn't grow up in wealth. Maybe just upper middle class, back then.
Her, she travels almost every month as long as she's not too busy. Wtf, right? She's so outgoing, she's based on Australia, grew up here, went back to Australia for a while before getting posted back here last year, and sometimes travel to the US for work. Holy shit. 22 years old. Holy shit.
As I type this, a sense of disbelief is exploding in my mind. Well, at least she's agreeing to more dates so I can find out more about her.
Yea, dates. I just had a lunch date with such an incredible girl, and I've only started chatting on Whatsapp with her at 8am today.
Now, I have an even harder time believing that she's still single. Am I being paranoid or does this make sense? How does a girl like that stay single for so long? She says she doesn't like Muslim guys in Australia and here, but I know plenty of nice Malay guys.
I don't know. On one hand, she's just unbelievable. On the other hand, she's just unbelievable.
Probably not a good idea to think too much on this; I should just be more cautiou, even though her Australian number does say a lot about her finances.
Regardless of whether the date was really "awesome" like she said, I'll have to wait till the second date to confirm whether this is going well. For all I know, she could just be very polite.
As for the long term, yea it does not look that bright unless I expand my business. In fact, the chances of a happy ending, assuming everything she's told me is true, are very slim.
18 March 2014
So she's willing to meet today for lunch again! Now I'm excited because a second date usually means success to a significant degree. Not complete success but this must be going somewhere.
Still worried about the long term consequences though.
Anyway it's not confirmed because of her work. If she's busy today, she's already agreed to lunch on Thursday anyway.
But I can't keep treating her lunch. First date, ok. Today, she's got some serious family issues to worry about, so ok again. But next time, I'll need her to pay her share. At the rate I'm going right now, I'll need to watch my money to have any hope of taking that business class flight to Canada this year or early next year.
19 March 2014
She's totally ignoring me, but then again, she's got major issues at home and lots of work. Kinda rude though.
Or maybe it was because I was straightforward enough to tell her that I can't keep treating her lunch because I want to start saving for a chance to take a business class flight to Canada.
She's so sad.
Yet I am not as motivated as I would with other girls the more I learn about how devout she is to her religion.
As for her character, I still don't know enough about her to make any sort of conclusion. I think she's as self-centred as I used to be because she neither offered to pay for our first lunch nor really asked about me, although to be fair, her story is pretty bad so she's got a lot on her mind.
Or it may have been an elaborate scam to get free lunches from gullible guys.
Got my MOS shirts and chinos back from the tailor, and during the same trip, I also brought my suit, my blazer, 4 pairs of pants and 3 shirts for him to fix. $247 this time, but it's way cheaper than buying brand new ones to replace all of them.
That suit was the most expensive to shrink at $85 but that's just 10% of the cost of that suit, so overall, from that perspective, I feel that I've got a pretty good deal already.
20 March 2014
Second day ignoring me. Strange that she didn't block me outright, but I guess that's still a rejection. Still a bit confusing since she asked me where I was, for some reason, after we parted that day. Phew! No more worrying about the long-term consequences of dating a good Muslim girl. Now to move on to another girl! I think this one is going to be overweight but practice is practice, and I'm not particularly slim myself.
As for the MOS shirts and chinos, the pair of pants was ok. Pretty awesome since the fabric is super stretchy, but the slim fit shirt was too slim for me. Dang! All that loose skin around my torso needs to go away! In the meantime, I can only wear the classic fit shirt and keep the slim fit one in my wardrobe for the future.
The weights training is also going well for me. It's starting to feel easier to do lateral lifts with 3kg weights. I think tomorrow I will move on to 5kg ones.
21 March 2014
Went for another movie outing with another small group. This time there was this girl who seemed to keep trying to talk to all the guys, not just me. I don't know if she was joking but she claimed that she was 31 and hence she was joining all these outings to know single guys.
I gave her my number; practice is practice. She seemed like a pretty fun person too, going to Cambodia alone next week. Technically I could join her, but will I?
Another girl there talked like a robot; I have no idea why and it seemed rude to ask. She just seemed to pause between every word in her speech.
Also saw Mark Lee, the Singaporean celebrity, while searching for the group, just chilling with friends.
As I look more carefully at the top end jackets, I realize how large the gap is between my products and theirs. No wonder they charge S$800 (shipping excluded) for some of those! Seriously, they make my $100-200 jackets look at junk!
A jacket meant for extreme conditions and wear and tear weighing only 700g! I will never achieve that standard with my current manufacturers, not even close!
23 March 2014
Met this cute girl again at another event organized by another club last night and we got along pretty well since we already knew each other. Pretty sure I could have gotten her number but... she turned out to be much older than she looked. Seriously, I thought she looked and sounded like around my age, but she was really 35.
That was a deal-breaker right there.
Just to clarify, I'd still totally ask her out for dinner - in fact I wanted to - but it didn't feel right to waste her time. She was looking for a husband and it would take A LOT for me to overcome my hesitation about settling down with a girl 7 years older than me, not to mention I'm not ready to settle down so soon.
Still, these events are far better than online dating sites, seriously.
Went for two movies today but didn't really make many friends this time. I suspect I'm more tired today and henceforth I won't be going for these events on so many consecutive days.
Anyway I mentioned that joining these movie outings were better than joining than those dating outings because of my relatively young age (I was the youngest yesterday evening, and the youngest girl there was my age), and also told the group about the girl I mentioned earlier, and everyone told me that age is not a barrier.
But I'm not trying to get hitched within the next five years.
Anyway the harder a girl tries to find a partner (not just me specifically), the more hesitant I seem to get. She was not totally desperate like another girl but the way she told me about her failed attempts just turned me off. Worse was how she seemed to have given up being proactive.
The more I think about her, the less attractive she gets.
Or maybe I'm just a terrible guy.
Looked back and thought about the two things I'm pretty sure were taught by that dating coach that I observed during the dating club event. Missed his dating seminar so trying to learn something from the guys who went was part of my reason for going there.
The first I already noticed before - don't describe yourself using the word "boring" even if it's true. I found out about that on the online dating sites because after I removed that word from my profile, responses came more often.
The second was to try to share a meal with the girl. Didn't seem to work by itself because the guy who tried that on the girl I mentioned didn't get along with her as well as I did. Looks like it has to be done together with something else. You can't just eat silently when you're sharing food with the girl, and the "Is it good?" or "How do you find it?" questions can only go so far.
And if she turns out to be some kind of connoiseur, I'm going to be pretty fucked. It would be like another girl I met during one of today's movie outings who turned out to be some kind of film and theater expert. My attempts at talking to her always ended in monologues.
24th March 2014
So there was another girl I met on Friday evening that seemed like an unlikely choice. She was so friendly that after the last two experiences with friendly girls, I pretty much doubt that I was going to have any chance with her.
Yet... so far so good. Hopefully she's still single though, otherwise I'd feel so bad.
We only talked a bit before the movie, and she disappeared quickly after the film ended. The only reason I have her number is because of the Whatsapp group. That's the best thing about this club - every outing has its own Whatsapp group, so we don't even need to ask for anyone's number. The downside, compared to dating clubs, is that not everyone is single nor is everyone in the same age group.
But talk to her I did, the morning after. Somehow just managed to get the courage to message her, and her replies have been positive. Today, she told me I was more mature than other guys my age, so I said she was sweet, then she asked if I was employing some tricks I learnt from the dating club because I appeared to know what girls like to hear.
I just hope she's being honest like me. I mean, she really is a sweet girl if everything she's told me is true, like how she is considering a career change mainly because of her desire to help others.
Forearm muscle pain!
This I really didn't expect when I increased the weight of the dumbbells I use from 3kg to 5kg for my shoulder exercises.
Closed the last of my accounts in online dating sites. They suck, enough said.
Bought a clutch. It was a little hard to find on Qoo10 because I wanted a cheap one that had a loop and was large enough for my iPad. Ended up with one that only cost less than S$30.
This is meant to be a trial run to let me see if a clutch is a good idea for me. Currently, I use a large laptop sling bag but it ruins my shirt. If I like using a clutch, I'll get a better one from the more expensive brands. Obviously a $30 clutch from some unknown Korean brand is not going to last very long, and I don't want it to break when I'm at work outside.
Also considered using my father's but the leather was coming apart.
17 March 2014
Great success!
She's just... Whoa! If not for the fact that she's Muslim, she'd be too good to be true. Yea, that's the catch, and a huge one lol.
But the things she's been doing, WOW! No wonder she gave her number so quickly! Such an extrovert! She's totally my role model now!
At 22, she's already planning to start an aqua gym within 3-4 years - in New York. I don't think she's lying because she really does travel a lot, and have photos to back up her travel stories. Yea, her family used to be rich, so she's really a different breed compared to me and people I know. So ok, my family used to be rich too, but I didn't grow up in wealth. Maybe just upper middle class, back then.
Her, she travels almost every month as long as she's not too busy. Wtf, right? She's so outgoing, she's based on Australia, grew up here, went back to Australia for a while before getting posted back here last year, and sometimes travel to the US for work. Holy shit. 22 years old. Holy shit.
As I type this, a sense of disbelief is exploding in my mind. Well, at least she's agreeing to more dates so I can find out more about her.
Yea, dates. I just had a lunch date with such an incredible girl, and I've only started chatting on Whatsapp with her at 8am today.
Now, I have an even harder time believing that she's still single. Am I being paranoid or does this make sense? How does a girl like that stay single for so long? She says she doesn't like Muslim guys in Australia and here, but I know plenty of nice Malay guys.
I don't know. On one hand, she's just unbelievable. On the other hand, she's just unbelievable.
Probably not a good idea to think too much on this; I should just be more cautiou, even though her Australian number does say a lot about her finances.
Regardless of whether the date was really "awesome" like she said, I'll have to wait till the second date to confirm whether this is going well. For all I know, she could just be very polite.
As for the long term, yea it does not look that bright unless I expand my business. In fact, the chances of a happy ending, assuming everything she's told me is true, are very slim.
18 March 2014
So she's willing to meet today for lunch again! Now I'm excited because a second date usually means success to a significant degree. Not complete success but this must be going somewhere.
Still worried about the long term consequences though.
Anyway it's not confirmed because of her work. If she's busy today, she's already agreed to lunch on Thursday anyway.
But I can't keep treating her lunch. First date, ok. Today, she's got some serious family issues to worry about, so ok again. But next time, I'll need her to pay her share. At the rate I'm going right now, I'll need to watch my money to have any hope of taking that business class flight to Canada this year or early next year.
19 March 2014
She's totally ignoring me, but then again, she's got major issues at home and lots of work. Kinda rude though.
Or maybe it was because I was straightforward enough to tell her that I can't keep treating her lunch because I want to start saving for a chance to take a business class flight to Canada.
She's so sad.
Yet I am not as motivated as I would with other girls the more I learn about how devout she is to her religion.
As for her character, I still don't know enough about her to make any sort of conclusion. I think she's as self-centred as I used to be because she neither offered to pay for our first lunch nor really asked about me, although to be fair, her story is pretty bad so she's got a lot on her mind.
Or it may have been an elaborate scam to get free lunches from gullible guys.
Got my MOS shirts and chinos back from the tailor, and during the same trip, I also brought my suit, my blazer, 4 pairs of pants and 3 shirts for him to fix. $247 this time, but it's way cheaper than buying brand new ones to replace all of them.
That suit was the most expensive to shrink at $85 but that's just 10% of the cost of that suit, so overall, from that perspective, I feel that I've got a pretty good deal already.
20 March 2014
Second day ignoring me. Strange that she didn't block me outright, but I guess that's still a rejection. Still a bit confusing since she asked me where I was, for some reason, after we parted that day. Phew! No more worrying about the long-term consequences of dating a good Muslim girl. Now to move on to another girl! I think this one is going to be overweight but practice is practice, and I'm not particularly slim myself.
As for the MOS shirts and chinos, the pair of pants was ok. Pretty awesome since the fabric is super stretchy, but the slim fit shirt was too slim for me. Dang! All that loose skin around my torso needs to go away! In the meantime, I can only wear the classic fit shirt and keep the slim fit one in my wardrobe for the future.
The weights training is also going well for me. It's starting to feel easier to do lateral lifts with 3kg weights. I think tomorrow I will move on to 5kg ones.
21 March 2014
Went for another movie outing with another small group. This time there was this girl who seemed to keep trying to talk to all the guys, not just me. I don't know if she was joking but she claimed that she was 31 and hence she was joining all these outings to know single guys.
I gave her my number; practice is practice. She seemed like a pretty fun person too, going to Cambodia alone next week. Technically I could join her, but will I?
Another girl there talked like a robot; I have no idea why and it seemed rude to ask. She just seemed to pause between every word in her speech.
Also saw Mark Lee, the Singaporean celebrity, while searching for the group, just chilling with friends.
As I look more carefully at the top end jackets, I realize how large the gap is between my products and theirs. No wonder they charge S$800 (shipping excluded) for some of those! Seriously, they make my $100-200 jackets look at junk!
A jacket meant for extreme conditions and wear and tear weighing only 700g! I will never achieve that standard with my current manufacturers, not even close!
23 March 2014
Met this cute girl again at another event organized by another club last night and we got along pretty well since we already knew each other. Pretty sure I could have gotten her number but... she turned out to be much older than she looked. Seriously, I thought she looked and sounded like around my age, but she was really 35.
That was a deal-breaker right there.
Just to clarify, I'd still totally ask her out for dinner - in fact I wanted to - but it didn't feel right to waste her time. She was looking for a husband and it would take A LOT for me to overcome my hesitation about settling down with a girl 7 years older than me, not to mention I'm not ready to settle down so soon.
Still, these events are far better than online dating sites, seriously.
Went for two movies today but didn't really make many friends this time. I suspect I'm more tired today and henceforth I won't be going for these events on so many consecutive days.
Anyway I mentioned that joining these movie outings were better than joining than those dating outings because of my relatively young age (I was the youngest yesterday evening, and the youngest girl there was my age), and also told the group about the girl I mentioned earlier, and everyone told me that age is not a barrier.
But I'm not trying to get hitched within the next five years.
Anyway the harder a girl tries to find a partner (not just me specifically), the more hesitant I seem to get. She was not totally desperate like another girl but the way she told me about her failed attempts just turned me off. Worse was how she seemed to have given up being proactive.
The more I think about her, the less attractive she gets.
Or maybe I'm just a terrible guy.
Looked back and thought about the two things I'm pretty sure were taught by that dating coach that I observed during the dating club event. Missed his dating seminar so trying to learn something from the guys who went was part of my reason for going there.
The first I already noticed before - don't describe yourself using the word "boring" even if it's true. I found out about that on the online dating sites because after I removed that word from my profile, responses came more often.
The second was to try to share a meal with the girl. Didn't seem to work by itself because the guy who tried that on the girl I mentioned didn't get along with her as well as I did. Looks like it has to be done together with something else. You can't just eat silently when you're sharing food with the girl, and the "Is it good?" or "How do you find it?" questions can only go so far.
And if she turns out to be some kind of connoiseur, I'm going to be pretty fucked. It would be like another girl I met during one of today's movie outings who turned out to be some kind of film and theater expert. My attempts at talking to her always ended in monologues.
24th March 2014
So there was another girl I met on Friday evening that seemed like an unlikely choice. She was so friendly that after the last two experiences with friendly girls, I pretty much doubt that I was going to have any chance with her.
Yet... so far so good. Hopefully she's still single though, otherwise I'd feel so bad.
We only talked a bit before the movie, and she disappeared quickly after the film ended. The only reason I have her number is because of the Whatsapp group. That's the best thing about this club - every outing has its own Whatsapp group, so we don't even need to ask for anyone's number. The downside, compared to dating clubs, is that not everyone is single nor is everyone in the same age group.
But talk to her I did, the morning after. Somehow just managed to get the courage to message her, and her replies have been positive. Today, she told me I was more mature than other guys my age, so I said she was sweet, then she asked if I was employing some tricks I learnt from the dating club because I appeared to know what girls like to hear.
I just hope she's being honest like me. I mean, she really is a sweet girl if everything she's told me is true, like how she is considering a career change mainly because of her desire to help others.
Forearm muscle pain!
This I really didn't expect when I increased the weight of the dumbbells I use from 3kg to 5kg for my shoulder exercises.
Closed the last of my accounts in online dating sites. They suck, enough said.
Bought a clutch. It was a little hard to find on Qoo10 because I wanted a cheap one that had a loop and was large enough for my iPad. Ended up with one that only cost less than S$30.
This is meant to be a trial run to let me see if a clutch is a good idea for me. Currently, I use a large laptop sling bag but it ruins my shirt. If I like using a clutch, I'll get a better one from the more expensive brands. Obviously a $30 clutch from some unknown Korean brand is not going to last very long, and I don't want it to break when I'm at work outside.
Also considered using my father's but the leather was coming apart.
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